Support for Those
Doing Life Alone
Sadly, more and more people are single and doing life alone. The dating scene is broken. Relationships are harder than ever. Masculinity is under attack. Femininity is under attack. Men and women are suffering. Many are having to find a way to find joy and happiness alone in this world. I’ve walked a lonely path myself, but have found peace and personal growth in my journey. I can help you do the same.
Doing Life Alone can present various hardships, primarily revolving around social isolation, emotional well-being, and practical challenges. Loneliness and the potential for increased risk of depression, anxiety, and even physical health issues like heart disease are significant concerns.
Emotional and Social Hardships
Loneliness and Isolation: The absence of regular social interaction can lead to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and a decline in emotional well-being.
Increased Risk of Depression and Anxiety: Studies show a higher prevalence of depression among individuals living alone compared to those living with others.
Potential Impact on Mental Health: Living alone can exacerbate existing mental health conditions or trigger new ones, such as depression and anxiety.
Difficulty Adjusting to a New Rhythm: Without the presence of others, it can be challenging to establish a routine and structure your time, leading to a sense of disorientation.
Practical Challenges
Managing Household Responsibilities: Handling all aspects of home maintenance, cooking, cleaning, and other tasks independently can be overwhelming, especially for those new to living alone.
Safety Concerns: Living alone can raise safety concerns, particularly in the event of illness, accidents, or emergencies.
Financial Strain: The cost of living alone can be higher, as you bear the full cost of rent, utilities, and other expenses.
Difficulty Managing Time: Without the structure of shared living, it can be easy to lose track of time and feel disconnected from the outside world.
Strategies for Coping with the Hardships
Build a Social Network: Maintain regular contact with friends and family, join clubs or groups, and engage in social activities to combat loneliness.
Prioritize Mental and Physical Health: Engage in activities that promote well-being, such as exercise, mindfulness, and hobbies.
Establish a Routine: Create a structured daily schedule to help manage time and responsibilities.
Embrace the Positive Aspects: Focus on the benefits of living alone, such as increased independence, personal space, and the opportunity for self-discovery.
Seek Professional Help: If you're struggling with loneliness or mental health challenges, consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor.
I grew up in Long Island, NY with parents who did the best they could. I worked hard and played hard in high school, college, and in my twenties. I went to an all boys Catholic High School wearing a coat and tie everyday. I then went to Boston College where I had the time of my life. After college, I came back to NYC and worked for GE and Morgan Stanley. I was dating my college sweetheart and we got married with the hopes of having a family together. But, I had been struggling and by the time we got married in our late 20’s, it was clear something was very wrong. I became extremely depressed and lost the ability to control my drinking. We both kept thinking that surely I’d be able to overcome both, but I just couldn’t. The marriage failed, the job was lost, the apartment and money were gone, and I ended up living with my parents at 30 with nothing left in my life.
At 30, I had the courage to face both and haven’t had a drink in over 20 years and overcame the worst of my depression. I rebuilt my life and began to find joy in life again. I changed my career and became a psychotherapist and account manager for some of the leading Employee Assistance and Health & Wellness companies in the world making a positive impact in the lives of others. I met an amazing woman at 32 and we were about to get engaged before a quack chiropractor almost paralyzed me with a neck manipulation. I again began to spiral and was in horrible pain for the next year and pushed her away out of fear I wouldn’t get thru it (just like I pushed away my ex-wife not knowing if I’d get thru that dark time).
But, I did, yet again. And by 40 I was stronger than I ever had been and took a risk and left NY and all my family and friends for a promised promotion in Seattle, which proved to be a fatal mistake. That promotion never came about and I kept the job, but left Seattle for Nashville just a year later. My Dad died, my job went to hell, I had moved cross country twice by myself, found myself all alone, and on the verge of a nervous breakdown. And, then, as if things couldn’t get worse, I lost a new job, lost everything I owned in a freak building flood, and then Covid hit leaving me no chance to get a new job and barely found a place to live. So, after rebuilding my entire life and working on myself for then years, I then had lost it all yet again, this time due to no fault of my own. I lost my faith, my confidence, and my will to live. But, despite it all, I kept going. I definitely got “stuck” in the fear and darkness for awhile, but soldiered on and have come out the other side much stronger and is what lead me to take a different turn with my career and my practice.
Much of my 40’s was sadly spent alone, but at 50, I was finally able to get unstuck, get free of self pity and anger, and begin the slow process of rebuilding my life yet again. I prioritized my health and went back to doctors and dentists, even getting braces to fix my teeth. I addressed my diet and weight. I took a look at my relationships and choices and took full responsibility for everything that happened in my life. I realized that after spending 95% of my life alone (I had lived with 2 women for only a few years in all my adulthood), I had learned how to not only survive going at life alone, but begin to thrive and enjoy my singleness.
I bring a unique combination of business leadership and clinical experience to my clients and in addition to my private practice, I work for world's largest EAP and health and wellness company.
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Licensed psychotherapist in NY and NJ with 25 years of coaching and clinical experience helping clients with the full array of clinical issues (depression, anxiety, work, relationships, trauma, finance, substance abuse)
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Seasoned business professional with 30 years of diversified experience in healthcare, technology, finance, marketing at world-class companies like GE and Morgan Stanley and several successful start-up ventures
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I've been a Financial Advisor, Marketing Manager, Director Client Strategy, and Psychotherapist
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Ivy-league education: Columbia University Graduate and Boston College Undergraduate
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Dual Irish and American citizen
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Traveled to Australia, Canada, Mexico, Costa Rica, Chile, Ireland, England, Denmark, Sweden
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Traveled to 45 states and lived in 8 states across the U.S.
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Entrepreneur, risk taker, critical thinker
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Survivor of severe trauma and PTSD
My approach is unique and I am very selective with whom I work with.
I charge $500 for 5 sessions with a full refund after the 1st session if not satisfied. Committing upfront to 5 sessions is important and lets me know you are actually motivated to change your life. Each additional 45 minute session is $100. Email me to get started.
Why Choose Me
25 Years Experience
In addition to my private practice, I work for the world's largest EAP with access to the latest best practices.
1500+ Clients
Average satisfaction score is 9.2 out of 10 with clients averaging 8 sessions.
Personal Experience
I have spent 95% of my life alone and have direct experience with the ups and downs of going life alone.